Pseudo-relationship

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding or sometimes, malabong usapan. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.




This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.
It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon(sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangangaliwakasi "hindi naman kayo."
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect namay patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong setup ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang. Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.
Mostly, ang rationalization ng mga napasok dito, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."
Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren't ready to commit.
Ang maganda doon, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.
But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang nagmamahal ang lugi.
Una, you can't ask siya to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you can't demandcommitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo or mangsundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the others, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him/her? You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him/her you love him/her, you can't. Because you're not sure if s/he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and that someone hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him/her, not entertaining others, only to find out that s/he is seeing other girls or boys?
Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."
Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that that someone is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.
Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.
Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.
But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.
When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable girl, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka. Magpakasaya ka. Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."
Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya� almost, but not quite.



Source: Ghia SanJose

Tips Of Becoming a Fashionista

Ever dreamt of becoming a fashionista but don’t know how to start? Actually being a fashionista would of course require knowledge or at least some background in fashion. A fashionista is always updated with the latest trends of fashion apparels, accessories such as fashion earrings. A fashionista is someone who follows style and fashion and can pull off a great look under any circumstance. Some people seem to be born fashionistas, while others don’t become interested in fashion and beauty until later in life. It takes a lot of work and practice to become a fashionista.

Here are some tips on how to become a fashionista :--
* Develop a skin care routine to build a good foundation for your fashionista look. Wash your face twice daily and apply toner and moisturizer. Get facials monthly. With a good skin, it is easier to flaunt.
* Get your hair cut in a style that’s up-to-date and easy to maintain. Play with your hair to find different looks. Figure out how to cover up bad hair days with up-do styles, buns, hats or scarves. You can even use styling creams to avoid bad hair days.
* Observe how experienced fashionistas dress. Check out the clothes fashionable celebrities and business leaders wear. Watch some of the fashion shows available on TV. Read books by stylists and other fashionistas. Cut pictures from magazines and catalogs to make a collage of things that you like.
* Buy the highest quality clothing, bags and shoes that you can afford and make sure the clothes fit and aren’t too tight or baggy. Buy neutral colors for the main pieces and dress them up with jewelry like a cute necklace and touches of color.
* Look for clean lines and classic, timeless pieces of clothing. When you make a purchase, make sure it’s something you’ll wear it in the future and not just a trendy piece.
* Flaunt your best features, but don’t bear too much skin. Balance skin-bearing pieces with more coverage elsewhere. Wear a simple top with a short skirt or modest pants with a low cut top.

With these simple tips, you can bring out the fashionista in you. Remember that it also requires confidence and how you carry yourself in public.

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By: Fashion Accessories

why we should waiting for our love?

For those who does not like to wait, they call it responsibility.
For those who play with it, they call it a game
For those who does not have it, they call it a dream
For those who love it, they call it a destiny

God knows the best, sometimes God will give us difficulties to test us.
Sometimes GOD also hurt us, so that GOD wisdom can be embedded inside deeply in our heart.

If we lose our love, there must be a reason behind.
The reasons which hard to understand.
But we still have to believe when GOD take something, GOD was ready to give us better.

To Be Loved and To Be Safe

Figure it out. Can you possibly be loved and be safe at the same time? I don't really know if somebody has given a thought about it - whether if it's possible or not.


Do you really have to impose safety in a relationship? In what sense? Does security means safety? Well, I think I just have to break it all down randomly.


Financial Safety


True, magastos din ang love kahit papano. It sucks that the concept of love has been too commercial and overrated nowadays na tipong siya ang madalas na themes sa songs, tv series, and movies.


The courtship stage is also expensive. Of course, it's in this stage that you really give all your best until you hit the spot. Then after you hit the spot, it's either you continue the expense maintenance or trim it down. But at least you got it in the end.


But the most expensive of all is marriage - from the wedding to setting up your family. 'Nuff said I guess.


But can financial safety and love really combine? I don't think so. Money, as they say, can buy you happiness, but not love.


Marry for love and not money.


Emotional Security

Most of us thinks that to be secured, one has to be in a relationship. I guess it's to boost self-esteem. Perhaps it's also to be "in" with your peers.


When you reach your mid-20s and up, that's the time when most of us feel insecure of not yet being in a relationship. Tipong ano ba'ng mali? Pangit ba ako? Kulang ba ako sa ayos? O dapat ako na ang manligaw? Pathetic. Until we forget the true essence of being in a relationship - it's love.


Standards


We usually set standards for ideal partners (e.g. must be good-looking, smart, ambitious, etc.) Oh c'mon! How sure are you in the first place that you deserve someone like that?

Everybody deserves to be loved. It's just that not everybody deserves the love of everyone.

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sa edsa

Subrang pagod ang inabot ko kahapon, pagkauwi galing sa opisina.
Maaga akong nag out hindi ko akalaing sa paglabas ko ng building makikita ko ang kinaaasaran kung tao na palaging sumisira ng araw ko,"wag ng magtanong kung sinu" ang sagot ko dyan "basta tao,pero asal hayop".

Magkasabay kaming naglakad mula sa building hanggang SM Megamall, ang lola mo subrang pagod dahil sa hils na napakataas.Medyo nag-usap pa kame't nagkulitan at ang resulta nawala ang inis ko sakanya, kakain pa sana kami kaso nga pagod na ko at uwing-uwi.

Magkasabay narin kaming sumakay ng bus, at ang tunay na kwento dito.. ganito ang mga pangyayari..

Namimili kami ng masasakyan kung aircon ba o ordinary, sabi nya aircon daw kc mas safe, dahil safe sa ROBINSON..lolz! nahuli pa yung sinasakyan namin at naghintay pa kami ng subrang napakatagal!"badtrip".Ng makaalis na.. mya maya huminto nanaman ang bus..at biglang bumaba ang driver,tipong makikipag away pa sa MMDA sa Robinsons.Bumalik ang driver ng ilang minuto, ang dami kung tawa sabi ng MMDA sakanya, sumisigaw.."ALAM MO BANG BAWAL BUMABA DITO! NASA RULES YAN KAHIT SA BIBLE" haha!! ang dami kung tawa sa MMDA halos mautot ako sa kakatawa sakanya,kht yung kasama ko e natawa.

Mamaya,pagkatapos ng eksena pinababa kami at sinuli at bayad"salamat po sa paghihintay namin..mga boyset,anung oras na".Tamang lakad ng napakalayo at hintay ng masasakyan tumagal din yun halos umabot ng 30minutes."sa wakas nakasakay din" at nakatayo pa,buti't may isang ali na mabait at binigyan ako ng konting space sa upuan'kalahati ng pwet ko lang ang kasya..kangalay sa paa".Nkaka baba na yung kasama ko at ako nalang mag-isa.

Ito pa..bangdang Cubao..ang may sumigaw "HOY NAIWAN MO KUNDOCTOR MO" putek ang dami kung tawa! anu bayan, nakakaasar yung araw nayun,pero medyo masaya.

Blog na Malungkot

Ang Blog na Malungkot..Nakakasawa na isulat lahat ng malulungkot na nangyari sa buhay ko,kaya karamihan ng malungkot dito,binura ko at pinalitan ng bago.Nakakatamad din naman kasing basahin, na kahit ako e ganun din.Sinu ba namang tao ang magtya-tyaga mag basa ng malungkot na blog wala diba?Pero ito't mag kwento narin ako, ito kasing mga nag daang araw e palagi nalang akong badtrip at wala sa sarili,sa bahay at trabaho,nakakasawa paulit-ulit kung sinasabi sa aking sarili ,sawang-sawa't pagod na ako.

Sa trabaho,subrang nanliliit ako sa sarili ko, hindi lang kasi ako sanay na pinag sisilbihan ang ibang tao.Gustong gusto ko ng umalis sa komapanyang ito, nakakapagod silang maging amo,"pero" kahit papaano e ini-enjoy ko nalang.."kahit papaano hayyy".
kailangan maging positibo palagi at wag papadala sa kahit na anong sama ng loob at pagod na nararamdaman mo..yan ang palagi kung sinasabi sa sarili ko,"isa akong baliw".

Nakaka paranoid..salamat nalang sa mga taong nakakabiruan ko sa labas..kahit na hindi ko sila mga kilala e..salamat parin sa mga bola,pang-aasar at minsan pa nga e..nakaka bastos na PERO OK LANG ATLIS nakaka libang "meju".

Katulad kanina..papunta akong banko,tatawid sana ako ng bigalang may pumarang kotse,ay!! suz!tamang ngiti c manong sakin..meju nakaka tawa lang kasi napahiya sya dun sa isang guy na nakakita sakanya"

malungkot..pero meju masaya, pero malungkot talaga

SANDALAN

Gustong gusto ko ang mga kanta ng 6cycle..pero hindi ko trip ang banda nila "labo ko noh" subrang makaka relate ka pag marinig mo lahat ng songs nila.Specialy yung Sandalan subrang ganda ng lyrics..try nyung pakinggan

Ang lahat ng tao ay may instant sandalan sa buhay. Yung tipong tuwing may problema, nagiging takbuhan natin upang maging kalmado at mapawi yung lungkot na nararanasan natin. Pwedeng nanay mo, tatay mo, kapatid, o kabarkada minsan pa nga kapit bahay.

"yung tipong" Sandalan na kahit walang solusyon na mabibigay, nandyan lang para hindi ka tuluyang masiraan ng loob. Kahit anong klaseng hasel, nababawasan yung lungkot o pag-aalala natin pag nakasama, o kahit makausap lang yung tinuturing natin na sandalan.

Pero hindi maiiwasan na minsan nawawala sila. napupunta sa malayong lugar, o nakakasamaan ng loob. Pag nangyare yan, sobrang bigat sa pakiramdam. Wala yung kinasanayan nating instant sandalan.

Mas malungkot ang kalungkutan, at pakiramdam natin mas naliligaw tayo sa kalituhan. Kaya alagaan at bigyan natin sila ng halaga, para hindi sila mawala. O kung mawala man sila, sapat ang saya ng ala-ala nila para masandalan pa. Sinasandalan natin sila, maging sandalan din tayo para sa kanila

oki???!!!!

kung bakit korni ang love??

Walang pasok nun kasi nga linggo,yun lang yung time na nabubuo ang mga anak ng nanay ko, "tatlo lang naman kame at ako ang panganay" .Habang nanood kame ng isang pelikula hiram mula sa kapit bahay, nakaupo at nag sisiksikan sa isang maliit na sopa "gawa pa ng aking tatay"

Hinahabol ng isang lalaki ang isang babae na nakasakay sa isang bus,malamang jowa nya to "hayysss hindi ko talaga alam kung bakit ako napaupo sa tabi nila at nakinuod narin".Ang bilis ng kanyang takbo ngunit hindi nya talaga naabutan. Sumilip ang babae sa bintana ng bus at nakita nya ang lalaki na nakaluhod sa malayo,biglang umiyak ang babae."tiningnan ko ang ang aking katabi,halos matawa ako sa inis kasi subrang nadadala sya sa palabas gusto ko syang sabunutan".

Biglang bumaba sa bus ang babae at pinuntahan ang jowa nya, "nakakatawa kasi biglang nag slow motion ang lahat,ANG KORNI TALAGA!!".kasabay ng pagtakbo ng lalaki papalapit sa babae,nagyakap sila at sinabing "sorry mahal talaga kita hindi ko kayang mawala ka" HAHA!!!!! "natatawa talaga ako,pero hindi parin ako umaalis sa kinauupuan ko patuloy parin ako sa panunuod habang kinukuhaan ng picture ang mga katabi ko,ang dame kung tawa sa kanila".



Nakakaasar lang kasi minsan, halos na bibingi na't naduduling ako sa mga taong nakakasalamuha ko sa kalsada.May kakilala nga ako,Barkada ko every breaktime namin halos bukang bibig nya yung crush nya, kahit saan kame pumunta at kahit nasa canteen kame na napakaraming tao e,hindi parin sya natigil nakakabingi na.

Isa pa,kakilala korin..nag-away silang mag jowa dahil nahuli nya yung bf nya na may katxtmate na ibang girl, chempre si Gf e nagalit..nagtampo kay bf at halos isang linggo silang hindi nag usap."nakaka-asar lang kasi,alam kung wala akong pakialam sa buhay ng ibang tao pero masyado nilang ginagawang komplikado ang lahat kahit walang karason-rason"

"Dumaan din naman ako sa ganyang proseso,ng paulit-ulit pero ayaw ko ng balikan"

"Napakaraming bagay dito sa mundo na hindi parin maipaliwanag,nakakalito.. na kahit napakatalinong tao ehh..hindi kayang masagot lahat ng mga katanungang ito,Maraming tanong pero kakaunte lamang ang nasasagot,Kung hindi parin natin maintindihan yung tanong..siguro sapat na nag manahimik nalang..tama na siguro ang maramdaman nalang natin diba???"

Ang Sawi

Kung tayo ay sawi sa pag – ibig walang salitang direktang makapaglalarawan sa sakit na nararamdaman tuwing nasasawi tayo.

Iba kapag BROKEN HEARTED . Hindi ka makakapag isip nang maayos, hindi ka makakagalaw, para bang tumitigil ang mundo mo at nalulunod ka sa hinagpis dahil sa dumudugong puso.

Pero kung iisipin mo, natural na parte lang naman ng buhay ang pakikipagrelasyon ang pagkasawi sa pag – ibig. Bago tayo makipagrelasyon (ihanda na rin ang sarili upang kung nasaktan ka man madali mo na lang tanggapin).At dahil normal dapat nang asahan, o manapa, ihanda ng isang nagmamahal ang kanyang sarili sa sakit na ibibigay nito.

At minsan dahil sa takot na masaktan, may mga taong hindi na nagbabalak pang magmahal. Ni hindi na sinubukang ibukas ang puso sa mga bagong manliligaw, kasi natatakot ng masaktan ulit.

Pero kahit gaano man kasakit ang mabigo sa pag – ibig hindi rin naman matatawaran ang ligayang nararamdaman ng isang tao.

na ngungumusta????

Wala akong magawa sa office kaya FB muna, nagulat ako kasi nag message yung taong subrang minahal ko.Marami syang itinanong saakin na sinagot ko naman,meju sad kasi kahit anong paliwanag ko sakanya hindi nya talaga matanggap ang ginawa ko.

Masaya ako pag ka usap ko sya kahit sa txt o chat lang yun ehh nabubuo ang araw ko,PERU kasama narin ang guilt dun..guilt sa mga ginawa ko,alam ko sa sarili ko kung ano yung nararamdaman nya,pero sana naiintindihan nya ko na mas masakit para saakin ang mga nangyari..nangyari na HINDI SINASADYA ng panahon.

Gusto ko syang makasama ulit,kaya umaasa ako until now na magiging ok ang lahat.
Ginagawa ko yung mga bagay na makakapag pabawas ng sakit na nararamdaman nya HANGGANG NGAYUN..inaamin ko sasarili ko na nasakin lahat ng FAULT..anong magagawa ko?? kung maibabalik lang sana ang panahon.

Wala akong magawa sa ngayon nakakalungkot..nakakaiyak..ang sakit subra?
WALA syang kasalanan..habang binabasa ko ang mag message nya sakin parang gusto kung maiyak..GANUN nga talaga ang buhay..HINDI kame para sa isat-isa.

SABI NYA!!!

somexpecial:totoo lng truma yun...
i wana hav relatition again but cant trust u ganun yun honrstly...
i wan honest nmn...b4 so i was shocked n was very seruoius nmn
so think abt to marry wid u in my side...
n just gone everythings
totally goes wrong...
but i understand ur side...
n i have accept ti also...



wALA AKONG MAGAWA...

Love Diagnosis

...kinikilig? show of concern? thinking of someone all day long? feeling hurt? jealous if your love is with someone else? No, it's only infatuation.

But how? It takes time. It's going to be tested. Don't rush things. Be patient.



Source:TrueLove

No One Can Really Hide From Being In Love

Even if you stop your mouth from telling someone how you love him/her or hide your true feelings from your friends and colleagues, it will definitely come out from your eyes, hands or feet.

You can run, but you can never hide!