To Be Loved and To Be Safe

Figure it out. Can you possibly be loved and be safe at the same time? I don't really know if somebody has given a thought about it - whether if it's possible or not.


Do you really have to impose safety in a relationship? In what sense? Does security means safety? Well, I think I just have to break it all down randomly.


Financial Safety


True, magastos din ang love kahit papano. It sucks that the concept of love has been too commercial and overrated nowadays na tipong siya ang madalas na themes sa songs, tv series, and movies.


The courtship stage is also expensive. Of course, it's in this stage that you really give all your best until you hit the spot. Then after you hit the spot, it's either you continue the expense maintenance or trim it down. But at least you got it in the end.


But the most expensive of all is marriage - from the wedding to setting up your family. 'Nuff said I guess.


But can financial safety and love really combine? I don't think so. Money, as they say, can buy you happiness, but not love.


Marry for love and not money.


Emotional Security

Most of us thinks that to be secured, one has to be in a relationship. I guess it's to boost self-esteem. Perhaps it's also to be "in" with your peers.


When you reach your mid-20s and up, that's the time when most of us feel insecure of not yet being in a relationship. Tipong ano ba'ng mali? Pangit ba ako? Kulang ba ako sa ayos? O dapat ako na ang manligaw? Pathetic. Until we forget the true essence of being in a relationship - it's love.


Standards


We usually set standards for ideal partners (e.g. must be good-looking, smart, ambitious, etc.) Oh c'mon! How sure are you in the first place that you deserve someone like that?

Everybody deserves to be loved. It's just that not everybody deserves the love of everyone.

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